Friday, August 22, 2014

An In-My-Feelings Moment

You know how sometimes you have so much on your mind, but you just don't know how to talk to others about it. You don't want to come off ungrateful or super needy. You don't want to come off insensitive because you know others have issues of their own and can't cater to you. Well, I have some stuff weighing heavily on my mind and this seems to be the best place to let it all out.

On October 30th I turn 28. Approximately a week later the Blogalicious conference happens. I won't be in attendance. I've been thinking about this conference since May. I've been dreaming of what it would be like, how much better I could do at it than what I did at the Blogging While Brown conference as far as meeting people goes, how much more I could learn from going to this brand new event (for me), and how nothing could possibly stop me from going. Well, money is stopping me. Unfortunately I'm not in a financial place to charge another $1,000 to my credit card and escape out of the city.

This was supposed to be the year of new goals being accomplished. Not only was I supposed to go to New York City for the second time, but I was also supposed to plan for at least one blogging conference happening right in my own state (for this year at least). That would be the Blogalicious conference that happens in November. I desperately wanted to do more than sit behind the computer, write, and promote this year. I wanted to be on the scene meeting other people like me; people passionate about writing. It's not going to happen.

Moving out of Texas is not about to happen this year. A conference is not about to happen this year. The biggest thing that will happen is I might get a chance to take a week off for my birthday. The week I turn 28 I'll be trying to figure out a million things to do in Houston with barely any money and no one to hang out with. Friends may join me for one night of clubbing, but I'll have to remind them 20 times in order to make it happen. The older I get the more annoying it gets to remind others that my birthday is actually important to me. So you already know how my mind is going to go the closer it gets to October. Please don't tell me how I could be worse off. I really don't care at this moment.

Thursday, August 21, 2014

#PreachersofLA Judge Not

The first lesson from season two of Preachers of LA is all about judging. It seems as if there are just a lot of misunderstandings going on.

For instance Pastor Jay Haizlip felt caught off guard when he found out he married off a couple that was hiding very important news. Deitrick and his wife were pregnant and already married when Pastor Haizlip publicly united them as one. Neither Deitrick or Dominique knew they were doing anything wrong. The initial pastor didn't show up and they needed someone to officiate the wedding.

The same goes for Loretta, Bishop Noel Jones, and Bishop Ron Gibson. Clearly Ron has been holding onto the fact that Loretta and Noel are not married. Whether friends or more, they've been together for almost two decades and still not married. That bothers Ron because of what the bible says. In this situation they all just have to listen to each other and respect each other's opinions. I think in the reunion show Loretta shut all the marriage questions down with her amazing response to Michelle Williams.

"It hasn't always been like this. It came with a level of maturity. I've come to a point that this is where I am. I own it, I accept it, and I walk in it."- Loretta

Actually it seems as if the message of judging  is going to get stronger into the season. There's a future scene where Loretta is crying and saying something about a pastor recognizing hurt. Then Ron's face appears. Is this connected? We'll have to wait to find out. The reunion episodes were clearly taped after the 2nd season was over with.

There are two people we will probably not see drama from. That is Pastor Wayne Chaney and his wife. Also, I love the message of Judge Not. Judging is what keeps every reality television show in circulation, so the message is definitely worth tackling.

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

His #Anaconda Wants Some (Lessons From Nicki Minaj)

When in doubt there is always one person to remind us that sex might be the answer. Despite the fact that Nicki Minaj dissed us skinny women, I was thoroughly entertained by her Anaconda music video. From the fashion to the ass shaking I found myself getting in the groove and doing a couple of my own moves.

Nicki Minaj is weird. We all know that, but as time goes by we're also learning a lot from her. The following are a few things that the Anaconda video taught me.

I can do plenty of rants about wanting to be seen as a boss, but at the same time I can shake my ass and the world will enjoy it. Nicki was moving that ass as much as she could.

There is no such thing as over-sexualizing yourself. Clearly all shorts can become smaller. When short shorts aren't enough to grab a man's attention, you can put Bunz on the back of the shorts to get the point across. Look, I want those shorts that say Bunz. If ass shaking isn't enough, add food to the mix and it'll be better.

His Anaconda wants some. Actually the video is all about big asses, but clearly we don't have to have big asses for men to want us. We just have to say the right words and make the right moves.

Watch the video below.


Tuesday, August 19, 2014

2014's Most Inspirational Song, I Deserve- Momma Dee

Of all people who debuted their songs on Love and Hip Hop Atlanta this season, none of it mattered after Momma Dee decided to start up her new career as a singer. 

Upon really looking at her son Scrappy's activities with women, she was fed up. She had to do something about it. Momma Dee had to represent for all the women in the world someway. What's better than a song? At least that's what I'm guessing this song I Deserve is about. It might be a Gospel song. 

Clearly it's about how every mother, specifically Momma Dee, needs to be loved. I think she's talking about the love of God. 

"When I opened up my eyes, much to my surprise, you came into my life, gave me love, from above." I'm going to be singing along with this for at least another day. 

#AtlantaExes 4 Reasons Why These Women Are The GOATS of Celebrity Divorces

Atlanta Exes has aired and clearly these women are the GOATs of celebrity ex-wives.

They have to go to their ex-husbands in order to date new men. We all know CeeLo is the real Queen no matter what woman he dates, so no woman of his can get away with dating new men he doesn't approve of. At least that is his mentality. CeeLo is straight pimping is ex-wife, Christina Johnson, and telling her not to be all out in public with any man. Christina is a pretty woman, but she's so attached to her ex-husband in the first episode they might as well still be married.

Their exes break up with them through social media, but they say only positive words when the spotlight is on them. Monyetta Shaw is a beautiful woman with a beautiful spirit. It hurt my heart when Neyo released that statement via Instagram that they were breaking up. What made it even worse was that Mo was blindsided. She didn't even see it coming, but on this show he is the loving father of her children and she's showing respect.

They need their husbands for relevancy. At least in the first episode they do. Although Christina is being hi-lighted on the show, CeeLo had to make a guest appearance. While Tameka Raymond had a career long before Usher, his name was brought up by her and the other women who had something to say to her. Even at her an event in remembrance of Tameka's son, Torrei Hart had to bring up Usher.

No matter how hard they try, the men they've been attached to might always overshadow them. While this world is nothing without us women, men know how to steal our spotlights. On the same day Atlanta Exes premiered, Kevin Hart got engaged to his girlfriend of many years. Not only is Torrei Hart on a show where she'll reveal her feelings toward Kevin, their relationship, and their divorce, but  he's showing the world just how happy he his with his new woman. That means no one will care about Torrei's story unless she does like Andrea Kelly and bring a fine ass man on the show as her new bae.

So like the addict I am, I'll be tuned in next week again. Did you like it?