Thursday, July 27, 2017

Read Your Mind/BED (Poem)

I know you wanna fuck, but I just wanna love
Tell me what's on your mind
As you sit by my side 
Or if it's not too hot we can cuddle up 
My body against yours 
I can feel you getting hard 
But I wanna get to know you more ways than sexually 
Shaking off thoughts of your body grinding against mine
Tell me what's on your mind 
How was your day? 
Did it involve drama or was it filled with relaxation? 
See I'm trying to figure out what kind of person you are
Will you stalk me if I give you access to my bedroom too soon? 
Or will you get the sex and disappear?
Change your number? 
Leave me feeling like you were a figment of my imagination? 
Is this a long-term thing? 
Can you really see yourself going places with a  girl like me
Because there's an expiration date for men like you 
And yours has already passed 
So can you tell me why are you still  here? 
Is it because you want another chance to be in my bed? 
Obviously I'm going to let you in

If Jacquees can do his own version of Avant's song, I can do mines in poem form.

Stop Telling People They Are Building Someone Else's Dream


There are the CEO's of big companies. At one point they were probably working for someone, but they had bright ideas of their own. They did a lot of studying to turn these ideas into billion dollar companies with tons of employees.

Then there are the employees. The employees do not work under the CEO's. The CEO's hire people on different levels, name them bosses, and they have employees working under them that they monitor. In this structure everyone gets paid. However, the pay is not equal for everyone. Everyone knows the owner of the company is the wealthiest person. Others are making money based on the importance of the job titles, but the job title pay don't always make sense either. In some of these companies the workers doing the most are getting paid the least.

Some of these employees have dreams of making better money while doing a job that makes them happier. They branch away from the job titles provided by the big companies and are called entrepreneurs. Some of these entrepreneurs gain success off of their dreams and give up the employee title. Some of these successful entrepreneurs grow big enough to where they end up with employees of their own.

If you fall into the category of the owner of a billion dollar company and the category of a growing entrepreneur stop telling people they are working to build other people's dreams. Stop bullying people with the idea that if they are employed by someone else, they are not doing right. Why? Because you need them to help build your dream. You might just hire one of them one day for your business and you absolutely need their money to grow your business.

If you are an employee, there is no reason you should feel guilty about doing what you have to/want to do to pay your bills.

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

How To Exit A Friends W/ Benefits Situation Without Losing Your Sanity

Grammar Disclaimer: It's been a while since I passionately blogged. Currently I'm just trying to get these thoughts out.

After some terrible endings with men that would have been considered acquaintances if we hadn't fucked, I came to some general conclusions of how to get out of a friends with benefits relationship while holding onto your sanity.

End it before you become a victim of embarrassment. I've been embarrassed. I've had the experience of an awkward conversation with a woman claiming to be the guy's girlfriend. It should have never gotten that far. 

End it before you discover you're not the only woman he's been using to satisfy his needs. If he says he is not ready for a relationship, don't have sex with him. If you do choose to have sex with him, at some point you'll find out you're not the only woman he's with. Then again, you could just discover that he's flirting with other women because he's not emotionally invested in you. How do you end this? You tell him that you can't do it anymore because of whatever excuse you can think of.

End it before you realize your emotions are too deep and your partner is still comfortable with just calling you after dark to get his d*ck wet. This is hard to break away from. One reason is that man is going to wonder why you no longer want to be his pussy appointment. The other reason is these types of men have been in casual relationships for so long, they don't see the problem.

Remember friends with benefits have expiration dates. In rare cases, the two can advance to couple status and then eventually marriage status. That hasn't happened with me. I've learned that these situations are supposed to expire. They either end with that specific date you create or they end in worse ways. 

Monday, July 10, 2017

Issa Album, The 21 Savage Album Is Good

I needed a break from the 90's R&B playlists on Apple Music, so I decided to listen to 21 Savage's Issa album.

You read that correctly. I l listened to the whole album. The same way I do with every album or playlist, I put it on shuffle as I left work Friday night. I can't tell you exactly what all he raps about though. I use his and other young rappers' music to clear my mind from the craziness of my world. However, I liked the album. 

FaceTime is my favorite song because he says, "Girl you put up with that man. You strong." 

Honestly I wasn't even thinking about any of these young mumble rappers, but then 21 Savage became a trending topic for a second because of his still fresh relationship with Amber Rose. Then he went on record telling everyone to no longer call her any horrible names or they'll have to deal with him.

“We just been kicking it, man. She’s a real cool woman. She treat me like a king, so it is what it is,” Savage explained. “And no disrespect will be tolerated at all. Keep your mouth closed, no hoes, no bitches, no nothing. Because I’m pulling up on God.”- via XXL 

 How romanic for a man with a knife tattooed on his forehead! All this time I've been waiting for a prince charming that has a bachelors degree or a higher and is making good money to treat me right. Maybe, just maybe, I need to look for a romantic thug.