Monday, February 1, 2016

Friend Zone Him or Forget Him?

It's 2016 and I've been wanting to do something different. This might get me in trouble if any of the men I've met get nosy enough, but oh well. 

It was his second time cancelling so maybe this time he just didn't find it important to mention again that he had planned to hang out with me for the day. Does this mean I got stood up? He mentioned us hanging together almost a week ago, but then he said something about a friend needing his help. The only reason he mentioned going to help that friend was because we were speaking about something else. In the conversation this guy did not mention the previous plans with me that were supposed to happen on the same day. I didn't care enough to remind him though. 

This is not some guy that was just interested in sex. Even if he was interested in only sex, I shut that down when we met. I told him that I have to feel an attraction to a guy to even get to that level. He seemed like a nice person. He made me laugh during our conversation, but I didn't feel like there could be anything past a friendship. Actually I was slightly annoyed that I had to go to his job, a bar, to even meet him. 

That time at the bar was the last time I saw him. Although he's a nice guy, I haven't felt like getting any more free drinks and it's been very cold at night. His job is sitting outside and checking ID's and then helping close the bar at the end of the night. I'm also tired of being the one that has to go out of my way to make shit happen. 

I went out of my way to meet this guy. He was someone from Tinder, so the expectation was to meet him at some point. But who really wants to meet a person at their work place? However, his lack of money and lacking of being able to go through with his plans is unattractive. 

Or is this unattractive? This guy does not come off as some random weirdo. He really just seems to be an overworked, underpaid, and sometimes forgetful man. Would you be cool with him? Even if he didn't come off as boyfriend material, would you even want to friend zone him? 

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