Monday, August 31, 2015

Brandy Explains How Validation Works

Do you need others to validate you or do you believe in yourself enough to where no one else's opinion matters?

Amber Rose and Blac Chyna Make A Statement At The #VMAs

We can definitely say that Amber Rose and Blac Chyna are feminists. However, they are not just women who are striving to be recognized the same as men. They're owning every title someone has ever given them.

In the outfits they wore on the MTV Video Music Awards red carpet, several words were displayed across their bodies. Some were Bitch, slut, whore, stripper, and gold digger. These are all words they've been called because of their past professions and the men they've dated. Let's never forget that after Amber Rose had forgiven Wiz Khalifa for his childish ways, he released a song that really demeaned her.

What do you think of their outfit choices? Could you walk around with these words displayed on your body?

Who Told Miley Cyrus To Reveal Her Breasts To Us? #VMAs

Miley Cyrus may have been the perfect host for the 2015 MTV Video Music Awards. She stepped on the red carpet looking very controversial with her barely-there outfit and her blonde dreadlocks. We just knew we were in for a wild couple of hours. Of course Miley took the wildness as far as she could. 

The craziness quite possibly started after Nicki Minaj called Miley a Bitch twice before exiting the stage. The second time she said Bitch, her mic had been turned off because nothing good was about to happen between the two of them. However, after the argument and several wardrobe changes Miley took things as far as she could. She flashed a boob for everyone to see. 

By the time Miley showed her little tittie to the viewers I was no longer watching. I stayed tuned in long enough for Kanye West to give a very entertaining 13 minute speech after receiving his vanguard award. However, there was enough craziness in the show. Miley did not have to reveal anything to make herself more appealing. 

But she did. Currently one of Miley's titties is floating around the web playing peek-a-boo. Did you have any interest in seeing her boobs? I could tell by her clothing that they are smaller than mines? 

Sunday, August 30, 2015

#SundayReflections When Communication Goes Wrong

For most of 2015, I've been by myself. Anytime I've wanted to go out, I've just gone. Almost all my restaurant trips have been a table for one. Social media, television shows, waitresses at restaurants, cashiers at grocery stores, and the homeless people standing on the nearby corners have become the familiar faces I see a lot and the people that recognize me. At the beginning of the year I decided to put the people I already knew and the idea of meeting new people at a distance. This is what I learned. 

Some people just don't get that they have to pick up the phone and communicate too. There are a few people that I talk on the phone with (or text) regularly. One lives on the other side of Houston while the rest live in other states. I used to communicate with more than a few, but my energy was being drained from all the effort. They weren't returning phone calls when they didn't answer or they were always making excuses for their own lack of communication. I took it as them saying I didn't matter at all to them.

As many of you know I went to Florida A&M University. During my time there, I met tons of people. Some of those people know lots of people and that has opened the gateway for me to sometimes meet people that I otherwise never would have come in contact with. There is this girl out here in Houston that happens to be one of those people.

One of my college friends went to middle school with her. Somehow they got back in touch after she graduated college. She didn't go to college in Tallahassee. He gave me her number last year after she moved out here and told me to get in contact with her. The only people she was hanging out with at the time were her (then) new coworkers. We met, but then my schedule got crazy. When my schedule gets crazy, I usually stop trying to keep up with everyone else. Plus I was pretty sure she'd have no problem with getting acquainted with this big city and meeting lots of people. However, because my friend knows I haven't been hanging with anyone lately, he suggested I get back in touch with her. I did. 

I called her to suggest going to this event coming up in a couple weeks. However, in the conversation she had to say what others love to say. It was that she doesn't really call anyone and has a bad habit of not keeping in contact with people. Her saying it was just something casual that she felt she should mention because we hadn't talked in a while.

People around my age love to throw out how bad they are with communicating. They love to put on social media for others not to call them and not to call them while they are texting that person. They love to put the worst moments of their friendships and relationships on blast for the public to see. They give this perception that they are better off alone even though none of us are. Then they turn around and complain when no one is communicating with them. 

I will also admit this. I'm becoming like everyone else. Outside of the couple of people I make an effort to communicate with, my skills are getting horrible. I just hope the friends of the past remember the times I did make the phone calls, ask them how they were doing, make plans to hang out and actually follow through. 

Friday, August 28, 2015

Red Lips In the Workplace: Is It Appropriate?

Is red lipstick appropriate for work? 

It's Friday and most of us are preparing for the weekend. Some of us are making plans to get out and enjoy our surroundings. Others, on the other hand, are just glad to get that two day break. I'm getting three days because sometimes I have to spend my Saturdays at work. Speaking of work, I read this blog post that talks about a specific lipstick color and if it goes well with the workplace. That color is red  and not everyone seems to think it is always appropriate. You can read the blog post here

Is red lipstick appropriate for the job? I think it is. I think red lipstick, big hair, and loud colors are perfect for the workplace. There is a traditional look for what we women should wear. It's generally plain suits, mainly black or white dresses, and the black heels that go with everything. The traditional looks are supposed to help us blend into environment more easily. However, most of the time we need to stand out. 

For me, standing out makes me feel better in the workplace. It makes me work better. When I have my red lipstick, sometimes my big hair, and an outfit no one else there would think of wearing I feel alive. I feel like an individual that is there with a purpose. I feel noticed. I don't feel robotic. 

Okay, maybe we are supposed to feel robotic in corporate America. We are supposed to lose our identities and take over whatever identity the workplace is giving us. That's not how life is supposed to be. I say go to work today, wear the best red lipstick you have, and put on something that stands out and makes you look fabulous at the same time. 

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Tracee Ellis Ross~ Work That Body

The following video is why you just have to love Tracee Ellis Ross. Recently she recreated her mom's (Diana Ross) 1981 Work That Body video. It's absolutely wonderful.

If The Love Doesn't Feel Like 90's R&B...

I'm probably single because I learned everything I know about relationships from music. Hello, my name is Lashuntrice and I grew up on 90's R&B. 

I loved how the singers possessed this feminine nature, but at the same time showed that they had just as much power as any man in their lyrics. I grew up wanting to dress like the singers I listened to. While there were examples of Black love in my family and nice fashion too, I didn't want to look like them. I wanted to do what the R&B singers were doing. 

Fast forward to 2015. There are memes that say, "If the love doesn't feel like 90's R&B, then I don't want it" have been going around. As I reflect on my love life, I can successfully say it has felt a lot like the 90's. I've experienced the Butterflies, the confusion of not knowing whether a man was really into me or not, and the pain from realizing I had been used. I've experienced the moments of pure passion and the confusion of not knowing whether I should fight to keep that particular guy around. 

Actually I have this manuscript that describes my journey. I'm currently trying to decide whether to self publish and sell it or to put it up as a free download for you all to read. Stayed tuned. I promise it'll be good. 

Gilbert Arenas Is Not The Father!!!

While Gilbert Arenas gave Laura Govan all the babies when they were together, he is letting everyone know she is the only mother of his children. Via Instagram, Gilbert let all of us know that Draya's son is not one of his children. He never had a child by her. He only gave her money to move to move to California. I wish I had a male friend like that.

If you're a man and you're reading this, would you give a woman money to move to another city and follow her career aspirations?

Read Gilbert's long IG note below.

THEY TOOK the bet No take backs!!! I'll end this quick ,from the Internet draya son was born 11 yrs ago that should be around 2003-4.. my teammate @dsteve92 intoduced me too draya feb 4th 2008 while we were playing #76ers I took my (rook) @swaggyp1 with me becuz i forced him to go with me everywhere and be my slave....BUT that means draya son was atleast 4 years old when I met her,me and her were coo friends...the summer of 2010 I was getting a gag order on #laura so she wouldn't waste her whole time running my name in the dirt with lies on #bbwla...Draya was casted but since the show wasn't paying her to move to Cali to shoot and live we came to an agreement if I help *u move too persue ur career in hollywood u wouldn't talk about me on that show* adding to #laurasMediablasting becuz at this point in my life I had the shaq rumor, gun charge, probation,got served on a nba court then blasted as a deadbeat father all less the 15 with them filming during the summer once the new season started that show would be airing during basketball season and I'll be looking at another year of a BLACK cloud over my name so I decided to put a gag order on the whole damn show so if my name was mentioned in shooting they couldn't air it......So this is why know one understood who draya was with too be on that show becuz the show was gagged and.......I thx her for making a name for herself and not uses my name to pogo her career when she was doing interviews#respect ..I wouldn't have never entertained this story but her son is kids are 9,8,5,4 and they can access the Internet and shit like this floating around can have kids confused and it needed to stop already....#CHECKMATE #OUCH #SEXYCHOCOLATE lololol NOW THIS SITE works for me hahahaha
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Friday, August 21, 2015

There Are Two Ways To Discredit People In America

There are two ways to discredit people in America. One way is to question what ethnicity a person is.

Are they Black? Are they Hispanic? Could they be Asian? Or maybe they are mixed. Then again, they could be White and pretending to be another race to gain attention. Black people get the most attention, for good and bad reason. 

Shaun King, the founder of Life Goals University (not to be confused with the singer Sean Kingston), is currently in the media because some people don't believe he is really biracial. This all stems from Rachel Dolezal, who was outed as a White woman pretending to be Black earlier this year. While Rachel wasn't really known outside of the state of Washington, she held a leadership role with the NAACP. To make herself seem more legit for the job, she told everyone she was Black. For a while her colleagues either believed her or didn't care, but this year a family member decided to reveal her lie to the media. The lie made her famous around America and made her lose her job. While Rachel and Shaun are two different people, Shaun is sticking to his story that he has a White mom and a Black dad that he never met. 

Many people first heard of Shaun when he came out with the popular online event called Life Goals University. It was a motivation website that was supposed to be the start of him mentoring as many people as he could reach online to follow their goals. After getting the website up and running, having tons of motivational videos from people, and starting a blog, he stopped. He had other obligations to tend to. However, it was the beginning of really being noticed by strangers worldwide. 

According to his resume, he has been fighting for the rights of Black people for as long as he can remember. However, many of us just found out who he is within the last few years. Even more, we have been exposed to both the good news surrounding him and the crazy rumors. One such rumor has been about him asking for money for to donate to Black areas, such as Ferguson, and then stealing the money. When rumors hit, he continually said he never asked for money from anyone. Maybe he didn't ask for any money and the rumors always died down, but it seems like there is one rumor he is having trouble defending. That is the rumor that his skin tone may be so light because he doesn't really have a Black father. 

Does it matter if Shaun's father is Black or White? To some it does and to them his movement means nothing if he has been lying about his race this whole time. For the people who decided to come forward and make his skin tone a huge topic, it's helping discredit him. 

There is another way to discredit people. That way is to question their sexuality. Whether people are straight, Gay, confused, or transgendered will forever be a popular controversial topic. 

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

#LHHATL That Moment Margeaux Became Gay

So is Margeaux really gay?

Margeaux joined the cast of Love & Hip Hop as the wife of the man who did a sex tape with MiMi. MiMi had no idea Niko, the supportive husband, was actually married. From there it all got confusing. Her initial reason for being on the show was to defend her scumbag husband and work on their marriage. Then she decided to file for divorce and focus on her music career. Now on the finale she has announced that she is in a new relationship with a woman that looks like a man. Her rebound dick has a vagina.

Her new partner, Merika, is a woman but looks manly. Actually Merika looks like one of those really feminine gay men that models men's underwear. So what do you think? I think Margeaux is just a really weird woman that needs to stay away from reality television after this.

#LHHATL When Music Goes To Hell And You Follow It

What happens when a rapper walks onto a stage topless with an up-coming singer behind her? You get a made-for-Love & Hip Hop Atlanta performance.

Sometime during this ratchet season of LHHATL, a former stripper by the name of Jessica Dime appeared on our television screen. In the scene she was celebrating her last night as a stripper. Karlie Redd and some other ghetto chick was in that same scene tossing money and doing what people do in strip club dressing rooms.

Jessica Dime caught our attention for a few very reasons. The first one was her ass. Upon looking at her ass, you could tell she went to the wrong doctor. It just didn't even look like it fit her body. The other reason she caught our attention was her attitude. The woman has the nastiest attitude reality television has seen, and that's saying a lot. This is probably why Jermaine Dupri lovingly named her music stripper fight music.

So those of us that are reasonable knows that it takes some time to build a real music career. Because it's Vh1, MiMi actually said she could do magic on Jessica's career in 3 months. She probably would have succeeded if Jessica wouldn't have black-listed herself from all the major producers in the city by acting a fool in front of Jazze Pha. However, Mimi promised a showcase and she put together one. Instead of using the showcase to her best ability, Jessica does something else.

Jessica Dime showed up to the showcase with Margaux. She hopped on the stage topless and did a diss record toward MiMi with Margaux sounding horrible in the background. Watch that shit below.

#PipeItUp Everybody Is Piped Up In Migos Video

"See that girl right there. She piped up."

In a true sense, everybody is piped up in Migos video for their song Pipe It Up. Someone's mom is acting a fool, children are dancing, women are twerking, old people in wheel chairs are moving their arms, and the inappropriate lyrics don't even matter. That beat is just so hot all that matters is that we are all yelling Pipe It Up. Below are some pictures to show the extremity of this video.

P.S. As you see, one of the group members is missing. He's currently in jail, or was in jail during the making of this video.

 If you made it this far, watch the video below.

Not Again! Terrence Howard Can't Keep A Woman

While Empire's Lucious Lyon is a rich, powerful man worth fighting for, the actual actor doesn't seem to be.

According to The Jasmine Brand, Terrence Howard and his third wife are now divorced. She stayed with him long enough to have the baby, but its over. He's single again.

Would you marry a man if you knew he had already been divorced a couple of times? Think about it.

Picture via Instagram

Friday, August 14, 2015

Taraji P. Henson Talks About Her Love For Fashion

"One day I'll be famous enough or important enough where people will want my shit like Elizabeth Taylor's."

When you think fashion you don't think of Empire's Cookie Lyon. You think of Taraji P. Henson. Taraji is winning in the entertaining industry and in the fashion department as well. In fact she talks all about being a fashion icon and enjoying herself in this month's issue of Harper's Bazaar, which you can read online.

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Oops! There Goes That Cheating Man's Business All Over The Web

Once upon a time when a man cheated the best way to get back at him was to ruin his personal belongings and mess up his credit. 

Well, Lisa "Left Eye" Lopes accidentally set Andre Rison's house on fire trying to burn some of his belongings. Then of course Blu Cantell set the record straight on how we're really supposed to act when he starts acting up with her hit song Hit 'Em Up Style. However, it seems like the days of just messing up some of his stuff is over thanks to the internet. It's now all about putting him on blast for the whole world to see. 

For instance MediaTakeOut posted an article about a woman who explained to her Facebook friends and family exactly why she is divorcing her husband. The article involves details of him sucking another man off. Those same photos are currently on her profile because she's taking delight in bringing him down before she leaves him. What she failed to mention was that she helping her husband pick out men for the two to get freaky with, but that part would have destroyed her purpose. 

Then there is the very popular screenshot button. Many women and men have used this button to embarrass the Hell out of each other and of course repost fun stuff. However, there are people who use it to kill their significant other's self esteem or as a tool of showing why the relationship is ending. A blogger who travels a lot just used that button for her own personal misfortune in the dating department. The screenshots were conversations between him and her about doing laundry. However, her purpose for posting them was to show the other women who had reached out of her about his cheating ways. 

Does any of this sound crazy to you? I'm a private person until I can at least get a good feel for what kind a man I'm dealing with. However, even if a man did me wrong I'd never go as far as putting all his business on my social media pages. I'd rather keep the embarrassment levels low. Would you use social media to call your significant other out? 

Monday, August 10, 2015

Dating Advice From Draya Michele and Orlando Scandrick

As we watch Draya Michele on her last season of Basketball Wives of LA, we're also seeing just how her relationship with Orlando Scandrick is functioning. Some people might look at the details and think they're dysfunctional. The rest of us look at what is going on and take notes on how to have a cool, exciting, and maybe loving relationship with a man that makes us happy.

Draya must be doing something right because she did get an expensive engagement ring. The engagement was called off, but as of now they are still together.

A boring relationship leaves no room for fun times. It also leaves no room for arguments and breaking up, unless those arguments are about being bored and going your separate ways.

We know Draya and Orlando aren't bored. They clearly argue and they don't hide it. The media has reported that she is kinda abusive and he has ended the relationship on several occasions. However, he keeps going back to her. The exciting part of their experiences is that they've gotten so wild that Orlando has gone as far as filing a restraining order against Draya.

Or am I the only one that thinks a restraining order against a woman that you're living in the same house with is cool? For them, this recently happened in July. They were having issues, Orlando told the media he was over her and they were no longer going to get married. A few days later a restraining order was filed against her, but it also revealed she was still living with him. Then we learned that Orlando never showed up to court to enforce the restraining order, so it was all good in the upper class hood again.

There is still more to the story. Draya recently did an interview where she said there will either be a wedding or a funeral. Ooh!

Some people prefer the calm relationships. They rejoice in knowing both them and their significant other are working regular nine to five's and have just enough energy afterwards to tend to each other's needs. They live in white picket fence fantasies, have several kids, and cute puppy dogs running around the house. If you think like them, then the following advice is not for you.

To have a wonderful relationship like Orlando and Draya's you must:

  • Be willing to become a news story because all interesting relationships get talked about 
  • Be willing to go as far as breaking up with each other every couple of months because the Facebook status changes and the times apart brings you closer together during the next try 
  • Risk having a criminal record because lovers get each other arrested and file restraining orders just to be sitting by each other's side when its time to face the consequences 
  • Have a ride or commit homicide mentality because happily ever after is going to take place

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

The Meek Mill/Drake Beef Has Been Taken Back To Middle School

When did we learn how to make powerpoint presentations again? It's a brand new week, but Drake and Meek Mill are still going at it. Maybe they are just having fun, because their attacks are funny.

During the 6th annual OVO fest Drake had a powerpoint presentation of Meek Mill memes going on behind him while performing Back to Back. Meek Mill finally decided to respond, but his response was that he would give Drake a wedgie when he saw him again.

This beef has to be a joke at this point. Picture via Twitter.

New Orleans After Hurricane Katrina, NY Times Focuses On The Food

Almost 10 years ago Hurricane Katrina was so destructive that millions of people were affected. Over a thousand people died. Most of the city flooded. People in New Orleans who had lived in the city their entire lives, or had made the city their home, were forced to move to new cities and states and start all over again. Once New Orleans started being rebuilt many of those people couldn't afford to move back.

Because of the destruction Hurricane Katrina called, NO went through a huge period of gentrification. That means the whole city looks wealthier and a whole lot more visitor friendly than it used to. It's not the same city as it was. If any publication was to write up on NO they could focus on the good and bad parts of gentrification. They could also focus on the families that would never be able to come back because property value is too damn high a lot more expensive. However, when the NY Times decided to write on New Orleans 10 years after Hurricane Katrina they focused on the food.

We all love to eat, but come on.

Tuesday, August 4, 2015

Can We Still Aim For A Traditional Family In 2015? (#HollywoodDivas)

Some women still have that image of the perfect family. They want a husband, kids, and a loving home to raise those kids in. They can't bare the thought of having any children outside of wedlock because it goes against what they've already planned for themselves and how they were raised. However, should they still hold onto that image in 2015?

Everything on reality television is old, but it comes off as new to us. Back in April the Hollywood Divas (Golden Brooks, Paula Jai Parker, Lisa Wu, Elise Neal, and Char Jackson) joined Tom Joyner's Fantastic Voyage cruise. Since we weren't there to see them in action, some scenes have appeared on the 2nd season of Hollywood Divas. You would think these women were having the time of their lives on this cruise, but clearly it wasn't all fun. Some conversations became very serious.

One conversation revolved around having children. During a panel discussion the women with children were asked how they manage to tend to their kids while having busy careers. After sharing their answers someone asked Elise did she feel bad for not having any children. She responded by saying no because she wanted to have children the traditional way.

Traditional means a two parent household with both parents being the biological parents to the children. It also means having the house filled with love and positive vibes.

Traditional isn't exactly a thought that crosses our minds when we think of having children though. So much happens. One minute a man is sexing us unprotected and the next he's acting clueless as to how we could be two or three months pregnant. Some of us find that man we think we'll spend the rest of our lives with, but then shit happens. Whoever created divorce papers knew that some people would rather easily walk away from problems than try to solve them. Then there are some of us that never seem to find that love in a significant other, but we still want to fulfill our maternal instincts.

All of the women except for Elise Neal are mothers. Not all of them found offense to her traditional statement, but some did. Golden Brooks felt that it was leaving out other loving mothers. Golden is a single mom.

Do you think wanting a traditional family is a problem in 2015? Should we not say out loud that we'd rather be with the man of our dreams and have a wedding ring when we reproduce to protect the women that aren't living that way?

If You're In The Spotlight People Want To See Your Relationship Fail

When Drake started firing back song disses at Meek Mill, people did more than show their hatred for Meek. Some of them started rumors that Meek and Nicki Minaj were about to split up because of the drama. Well, Nicki proved them wrong by referencing Meek Mill as her husband during the Atlanta concert over the weekend. That means there is no trouble between those two. However, as those split rumors were cleared up more surfaced. 

One of our favorite celebrity couples, Will and Jada Smith, get hit with divorce rumors just about every year. For some reason every time those rumors surface enough people believe it for it to spread. They don't always respond though. Usually Jada will respond by writing something on her personal Facebook page saying how much she loves her husband. However, Will Smith is so tired of the rumors surfacing that he decided to respond himself. 

Well, I'd respond to if people were reaching out to me expressing their condolences. We live in an odd time period. This is a time where more people want us to fail more than succeed, but it's not just our money they are trying to block. It's relationships too. Other people want to see us in unhappy relationships and eventually very single.  However, if you're a celebrity the attempts are magnified.

Just think about it. Why should a beef between Meek Mill in Drake end with Nicki Minaj breaking up with Meek Mill? Why after decades of marriage would rumors of Will and Jada splitting continue to surface? Remember the continuous rumors of Beyonce and Jay-Z parting ways or the rumors of Kanye cheating on Kim K. when she was pregnant with their first child? Then there is Ciara, Russell Wilson, and Future. 

No one wanted Ciara and Future to work out. I thought it was crazy that she was hooking up and attempting to marry a man with a track record of making women single mothers. Then she got pregnant and before she could have baby Future their relationship was ending. 

Now Ciara is with Russell Wilson. He seems to be a better guy, but their relationship is still fresh. They have so much more time to get to know each other and grow together. However, there are people out there that desperately want to see the couple fail. One of those is Future. Why would anyone want them to fail? It' simple. When you're successful and in a seemingly good relationship, there are tons of people that want to see it fail. 

That means you need to hold on to that good significant other if all eyes on are you and you want to make it work. 

Sunday, August 2, 2015


The craziest argument broke out on Basketball Wives LA and it all stemmed from the FUPA. 

Well Draya initially told Jackie to remove Mehgan's FUPA from whatever international commercial Mehgan was starring in for Jackie. Jackie then asked Draya what it stood for and apparently it means Fat Upper Pussy Area. It wasn't hard to notice it was a problem in a scene. The man editing the video knew exactly where the problem was located without any direction. During the night of commercial viewing the FUPA was brought up again and Mehgan was in denial. The liquor made Jackie say it in front of everyone. 

The viewing party is over and there's another scene. This scene is supposed to be dedicated to a breast cancer event, but FUPA becomes the center of conversation again. Instead of being loving, Jackie has turned against Draya after a one on one conversation with Mehgan. So all the women in the room discuss FUPA and the use of the word at the party. Then apologies that go in one ear and out the other gets said.

Shaunie finally starts to speak up, but she's as messy as the other women. Evelyn and Lozada and Tami Roman makes appearances, but neither of them say FUPA. 

These women clearly don't want to have a FUPA, but I've heard it said so much that it's embedded in my vocabulary.