Sunday, February 28, 2010

That's My Attitude

Saturday, February 27, 2010

I Joined Because...

I joined facebook because all of my friends were on it at the time. After I joined I started requesting anyone and everyone because I wanted to have lots of friends. Other than friends I enjoyed posting pictures of myself on there. I did this because I thought it was cool for people to see my every style and to show the world how much fun my friends and I were having. Then I started updating statuses and putting notes on facebook. I did this to see if other people thought the same as me.

I joined myspace because I had family members on there. The majority of these family members were people who I did not live near so it was nice to have something that connected me to them. I added some photos to myspace just so they could know what I looked like. I also added friends on there for reasons of having more people to connect to. However, because of all of the self promotion and business promotion going on it was hard for me to really connect with anyone on myspace.

I created a twitter account just because everyone else was doing it and I wanted to see what I was missing out on. Unlike facebok and myspace, twitter has smaller word limits and you cannot add photos. This means I'm not getting the satisfaction out of it.

Now notice with each website I named there was no mention of self promotion. Years ago when I created my first account on a social networking site it was about fun; friends having fun by posting pictures and having conversations, people meeting new "friends," and people just hopping on the computer to get away from stress.

However, now when I log onto a social networking site I'm bombarded by advertisers ( I don't want to hear about your business when I'm looking at my friends pictures), church groups (I don't want to go on a fun site and be reminded that I'm a sinner), and and people's political opinions. Plus, I was told that the things I post now can effect what future job employers think about me. What ever happened to living in the moment?

I joined social networking sites to have fun on the internet. There are still moments where I network with people who have the same interests as me. We share our poetry, our pictures, our love of music, and even our facebook friends. However the majority of the time when I log on now I feel like I am being forced to limit my thoughts because someone else might not like them, I have to network with people who have a business mindset, and I have to think about the kinds of pictures I put up before I add them. Now can someone inform me what happened to the social networking I fell in love with?

Friday, February 26, 2010

Just One Night

I haven't written anything in a while, but I felt the need to expose the world to some more of my poetry. The poem you are about to read was written my freshman year in college.

Just One Night


Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Monica Why?

Why is Monica trying to copy Cassie's hairstyle?


Okay, Cassie's is much worse, but still why is Monica trying to copy it?

I Accidentally Joined A Sorority

Actually it's a mixture of a sorority and fraternity and I haven't actually joined. However, over the last couple of years I have been pledging.

The pledging started the day I decided I wanted to major in journalism. Unlike joining an organization, I had no idea what I was getting myself into. All I knew was I was depending on my professors to lead me down the right path. It felt kind of like this trust game that most people play when they are getting into organizations. In the game one person gets blindfolded and another person (or multiple people) try to lead that person down a path.

The next part of my hazing, oops I mean pledging, consisted of lots of writing. Writing was expected since I was a journalism student, but some professors found ways to really test my (and others) knowledge. This testing was done by making me remember a month (or more) of news material and at least 10 chapters in a book for a test. Then the test would be 10 essay questions on only God knows what. As hard as I tried, I was never prepared for those tests. My memory wasn't that good. My memory is better now, but it's still not that good.

Along with essay-tests came lots of newspaper writing. While I was supposed to be getting experience writing in newspapers, that is not what I'm referring to. There was lots of newspaper writing inside of classes. Sometimes I was given general assignments to write stories on, but other times I had to interview my classmates. I learned from these experiences that it's easier to ask questions than it is to answer them.

After these lovely experiences I felt confident in my ability to survive this journalism program. Well, most of my confidence came from watching people around me change their majors or drop out of school from frustration. However, the pledging was not over yet.

Since I had chosen to be a broadcast student it was time to get accustomed to the life of a broadcast journalist. There were some very bad experiences starting out. Some consisted of horrible stand-up locations, terrible editing, and moments of feeling really cold in the editing booth. Yes, the picture above is me.

Soon I did figure out how to write and put together good news packages. I also made a documentary (with the help of a partner). Now I'm, my last semester, I'm getting the experience of working on a live newscast that airs every Monday through Thursday. While making it to the live newscast is a great accomplishment, it's still a part of my pledging.

However, in a couple of weeks I will be experiencing the probate. My probate (also called Capstone) will consist of three professors, whom I've had as teachers, judging a portfolio of work that I've done throughout my years at this school. When organizations have probates it means you've made it into that organization. This one, on the other hand, will determine if I'm ready for the real world or not.

I know I'm ready. I just have to prove it to those professors. Then once I'm done I will receive my degree. It's not an acceptance of life-long sisterhood, but it does look good on a job application.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Hidden Secret

I have a secret. It's very personal, but I want to reveal it to you. Sometimes (deep breath), sometimes I get horny.

LOL, okay that's a phenomenon that everyone goes through. However, my being single prevents me from having someone readily available to deal with the issue.

However, instead of convincing myself to focus on other things, I play some R. Kelly and let the issue ride out.

That's why my song of the moment is R. Kelly's Seems Like You're Ready

Monday, February 22, 2010

Skinny Bitches Are Evil...NOT!!!

But some are stupid.

Tonight Celebrity Fit Club is coming on and I'm anticipating it. However, my anticipation is only because of Nicole Eggert.

Nicole Eggert is an actor who is best known for her role in the tv series Baywatch. Now during Baywatch Eggert was skinny. She had to be in order to prance around a beach in a bathing suit. Now weighing 130lbs at the start of Celebrity Fit Club she proved that she had not lost her thin figure.

Instead of embracing her figure she told the judges she wanted to lose weight. They agreed with her too. I don't understand their logic, but it got worst. On the last episode the judges took a look at her journal. While Eggert lost the weight she was supposed to lose, the judges saw that she was not really eating either. Instead of addressing the problem she convinced them that she enjoys eating only one meal a day.

One meal? Honestly I'm skinny, but even if it's junk food I'm eating more than once a day. Eggert, however, is just dumb. She needs to eat more. She needs to embrace her skinny figure. Plus, the judges need to stop supporting her crazy mentality.

Okay some of you might not believe me since she is on Celebrity Fit Club, so here's the proof that she needs to sit down and eat a twinkie (or two).

She might have a little stomach, but don't we all.

Sunday, February 21, 2010

School Lessons: Happiness Is Hard

At the beginning of this week I was happy. I didn't feel any stress. I felt I could accomplish anything. Then came moments where I had to focus my attention on things I did not care about.

On one occasion I had to sit and listen to a professor complain about how students were neglecting his class (a class I unfortunately need to graduate). This brought my mood down because I was one of those students who was neglecting his class. Well, I'd missed one session because I had some other assignment at the exact same time. Too bad you can't be in two places at once.

Then after listening to this professor complain I was left feeling like my time was wasted, because this professor cannot help out broadcast students. Broadcast is not his concentration. However, my mood fell even more because while he does not understand broadcast stuff, I still have to make a pretty portfolio to present to him.

I'd tried to get over his craziness and back to my happy place, but then my lab day came. With the exception of tiny issues I have this lab day thing down now, but I started getting frustrated on that day. The frustration came when the professor started looking over my shoulder and paying attention to my every little detail. Now if he was helping me out this would be fine, but he wasn't helping. He was just trying to document my mistakes.

And that brings me to my school lesson of the week:

It's hard to stay happy.

Friday, February 19, 2010

How To Be A Better Entrepreneur

The following list came from my friend Randy's blog at . In this list is 53 ways of how to be a better entrepreneur. Enjoy the list and I hope you learn something.

Here are 53 things to keep in mind if you want to be a better entrepreneur:

1.Don’t let emotions cloud your decisions.
2.Accept criticism, no matter who gives it to you.
3.Never stop networking.
4.Learn from your own mistakes.
5.Learn from other people’s mistakes.
6.Around every corner lies an opportunity for you to sell something.
7.Don’t get too greedy… pigs get fat and hogs get slaughtered.
8.Try not to mix your family life with your business life.
9.No matter how successful you are, you shouldn't’t stop learning.
10.Spending money on good lawyers and accountants will save you more money in the long run.
11.Don’t pick a stupid company name and if you do, don’t change it later on.
12.Hiring employees won’t solve most of your problems.
13.Be agile because slow and steady won’t win the race.
14.Being agile isn’t enough, you also have to be scrappy too.
15.Having a good business partner will be a key factor in your success.
16.Don’t be afraid of the unknown.
17.It is easier to save money than it is to make it.
18.You don’t always have to innovate; there is nothing wrong with copying.
19.Have a marketing plan.
20.Don’t under estimate your competition; you can’t always know what they are doing.
21.Watching movies like Boiler Room, will teach you how to sell.
22.If you don’t have a business mentor, you better get one.
23.Your income will be the average of your 5 closest friends, so pick them wisely.
24.Diversifying is a good way to play things safe.
25.It doesn’t matter what you want, it only matters what your customers want.
26.When others are fearful, you should be greedy. And when they are greedy you should be fearful.
27.You don’t always have to pay for advice. You’ll be amazed with the free advice you can get pick up from the web.
28.The best chances you have of becoming rich is through your willingness of working hard.
29.Even the most idiotic business idea can make money.
30.Sex sells and it always will.
31.An easy way to make more money is to up sell to your current customer base.
32.Base your business decisions around metrics.
33.There is no such thing as a safe bet.
34.You don’t have to start a business to be successful.
35.Raising venture capital is harder than being struck by lightening.
36.Staying under the radar isn’t always a bad thing. Being out in the open is a great way to attract more competitors.
37.Learn to be a team player.
38.If you ever get screwed over, think twice before you burn the bridge.
39.Learn to manage both your personal and business money.
40.Live in a location filled with entrepreneurs.
41.If you don’t take any risks, there will not be any rewards.
42.Don’t let anything stand in your way.
43.Sometimes you have to wait for good deals to come to you.
44.The smartest route isn’t always the easiest route.
45.Being too aggressive can backfire.
46.With networking, it isn’t about whom you know, it is about whom your network knows.
47.It’s never a bad thing to know too many rich people. Whether you like them or not, they can always come in handy. So make sure you always play nice with them.
48.Use your email signature to promote your business.
49.Don’t be afraid of social media. It is a great channel for customer acquisition.
50.You’ll learn more from starting your own business, than going to business school.
51.Having a personal blog doesn’t only help build your personal brand, but it helps your business as well.
52.Your competitors don’t have to be your enemies, you can learn a lot from them.
53.You can grow your business by working for free.

How To Keep A Man

The words of an author...

How do get in or stay in the dating game after divorce and/or when you're a single mom?

Ladies, don't give up on meeting a good man, don't limit yourself to a particular race of men, and don't settle for any man.

In Parts 1, 2, & 3, I've given you the tools to work on your attitude, appearance, and mate selection, now let's deal dating.

1) You must do your Spring Cleaning after divorce or any breakup.
2) You must reinvent yourself.
3) You must notice the men that are noticing you.

After a divorce or breakup, life can take an emotional and financial nose-dive. You wonder what happened to the wonderful man that used to make you smile and laugh all the time. Where did things go wrong? When did you stop being 'in love'? Was it your fault? His? Did you take one another for granted?

It's important to understand why the marriage or relationship ended. Maybe the relationship had challenges before you said, "I do." Perhaps you were like me and believed the marriage would last forever. Circumstances change. People change.

The first time my husband hit me repeatedly in my face, my back was to the front door. I accepted his numerous apologies but I never went back to him. Ladies, don't ever give a man a second chance to prove he's an abuser.

Sometimes we as women make men better men for the next woman, not for ourselves.

After divorce or a breakup, reinvent yourself. No matter what the season, Spring Clean your heart. Allow yourself time to let the tears flow and dry, then wash your face. You know good we feel in the morning after a good night's rest, after we brush our teeth, and wash our face. Cleanse your spirit. Dump your baggage. Then you can open your heart to someone new. When you meet a new friend, please allow yourself to judge him on his own merits.

Remember the vibrant vivacious woman you were before marriage? Remember how energetic you were when you met your husband or boyfriend? You are now that woman to the tenth power. You're smarter, wiser, and the woman inside of you needs to be reborn.

Start by opening up to the idea that there are good men that you can enjoy being with. There are men who would, given the opportunity, love and respect you. I hear you, "Okay HoneyB but where in the hell are they?"

Good men are everywhere. They shop for groceries, take the subway, Metro, Bart, and other forms of public transportation. They eat and/or drink at the counters at restaurants' bars. They shop at malls. They go to the movies and social events alone. They do all these things hoping to meet a woman like you.

How do you get his attention? Smile. Flirt a little, not a lot. You can initiate the conversation but let a man do the hunting. And for goodness sake, open your eyes. Know when a man is flirting with you. I have a plus-sized girlfriend and I notice the men watching her but she's totally oblivious. Then she says, "I want to meet a man." If this sounds like you, I ask, "Do you really?"

Single moms with children under the ages of 18-years-old, you have to make time for yourself. When you meet men, it's okay to introduce them to your kids. Just don't leave them alone with your kids. When dating becomes serious and you want to make a commitment, have a conversation with your kids first. I'm not saying the child dictates the man you date, but children have great instincts. Listen to what they have to say and watch their interaction with your date.

Let's not omit the Sugar Daddies. I had a few when my son was young. My Sugar Daddies paid some of my bills and sponsored multiple vacations for my son, one of my son's friends, and me. Fair exchange is no robbery. Everybody was happy.

Ladies, divorced or single do NOT have a baby for a man that cannot afford to take of himself and your child. A child is a life-lone commitment. A man, unfortunately is far too often a temporary fixture in our lives. Know what you want.

Women control relationships. Pussy has power. Value any aspect of your womanhood.
Ladies, you are in control. Remember Parts 1, 2, & 3, then add theses tips from Part 4.

IMPORTANT! Ladies, learn how to maximize the moment for each date. Avoid arguing or having a bad attitude, especially before a date. No man wants to takeout and spend money on a woman with a bad attitude.


New York Times Best-selling Author &
Relationship Sexpert

On The Way To Lincoln Video Blog #4

While working on an assignment during class hours as a reporter I took some pictures and got some footage using my own camera. Then I decided to take the pictures and footage and make a video. This was the result.

This video is both entertainment and news so I did not put the log on it.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

How To Keep A Man

According to Mary B. Morrison the following works.

Why do some women repeatedly date the same types of men?


It's simple. These women don't know what they want from a man.

I've heard women say, "I don't know why I keep choosing the same types of men." There are no excuses for not knowing why. The truth is you don't want to deal with reality. Stop letting men keep you. Decide if you want him.

Lots of women have experienced physical, mental, emotional, and financial abuse. Some (like myself) have been raped and molested. I learned early in my life that bad things do happen to good people. Despite whatever has happened, we still have the power to NOT allow any man to use or abuse us.

Women trade one bad relationship for another because deep inside they don't feel worthy of love, respect, trust, and adoration from any man. My saying is, "I love myself more than anyone else." My affirmation of self-love has kept and continues to keeps me strong & HAPPY. I don't let men stress me out with their nonsense. That's why I date openly. That's my decision and choice. What's yours?

Too many women open their legs before opening their minds and letting a man open his heart. Stop giving your love away. Let him like/love you more. Sexy nor beauty has a shape or image. There is a price to pay for having a decaying heart. First your spirit dies, then you perish. Give your heart a total makeover . . . truly learn to love yourself.

In Parts 1 & 2, I've given you the tools to work on your attitude and appearance, now let's deal with mate selection:

1) You must identify your needs and your desires.
2) You must take time to learn the lessons.
3) You must recognize the patterns and identify the signs.

Take a moment, jot down your relationship needs & desires. You can type notes in your PDA or write yourself a letter. Your needs are the things you must have like respect, consideration, honesty, etc. Keep it real and don't expect to receive that which you're not willing to give. If you don't know what you want from a man, you are going to settle for whatever he offers. Never give too much too soon. That's a common mistake lots of women make.

If you don't learn any lessons from your breakups, you're destined to repeat the same mistakes. So the man you truly loved is gone. You're distraught, upset, an emotional wreck. You, cry. Can't eat. Can't sleep. Eventually your broken heart heals but still has a hole in it. You meet another man and start dating. You're happy with your new love(r).

The hole in your heart represent your failure to bring closure to your previous relationship. You didn't determine why the relationship ended; you're just happy he's gone. The next man perhaps sees in you what your ex saw and gradually he begins to treat you the same way. What signals are you sending men?

You must recognize the signs. I call them 'red flags' that indicate warnings. If you can communicate with your ex, that's a good place to start. You're not trying to rekindle the relationship, you're seeking to understand yourself. Ask him, "What do you believe was the demise of our relationship?" Listen to his response. See if there are any similarities with your new relationship. If so, you have the power to change your behavior.

Ladies, you are in control. Remember Parts 1 & 2, then add theses tips from Part 3.

IMPORTANT! Ladies, when you know better, you can do better. Compromise. Never settle.


New York Times Best-selling Author &
Relationship Sexpert

Searching For Originality: Da Brat

Da Brat has always had a style of her own. That is why I'm taking notes from her. Just check out the picture.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Searching For Originality: TLC

The biggest problem with originality is either it's all been done or every one's wearing it. If I go to Forever 21 there are going to be at least 20 girls wearing the same outfit as me the other day.

Therefore anytime I look to the past for inspiration on how to stand out, I look for those women who turned the clothes everyone was wearing into their own unique style. One inspiration of mines is TLC.

One day I'm going to pull off the burgundy hair and make it my own style.

Appearance Is Everything

If you do not believe the title, then read the advice New York Times best selling author Mary B. Morris is giving.

Why do some women look and smell great no matter what the time of day?

Commitment to their 'double-take' appearance is the answer.

Most of us enjoy looking at an attractive well-groomed man. He can be in a suit, sweats, or jeans but his appearance speaks volume. Think in the reverse. What if that same man that you're admiring, looks at you. You want him to do a double-take.

Now that you've got or are getting your attitude in order, let's get your Lady Swag on:

1) You must maintain your physical appearance.
2) You must have impeccable hygiene.
3) You must master your mannerisms.

Physical appearance matters. A little goes a long way. Take the extra few minutes to keep your face fresh, your eyes white, and your smile bright. Eyelashes are your face's sunshine. If you haven't worn lashes, try them. MAC charges $14 and will put the on for FREE.

It's easy to start off fresh in the morning but what about noon (after lunch) or right before you exit the door after work? Take a few extra minutes to touch up your hair and lipstick. I don't care how hectic your day was, when you look in that mirror before leaving work give yourself a kiss in the mirror and smile then say, "I AM WORTHY."

Wardrobe is essential. You don't have to spend a million dollars to look like a million bucks. Irrespective of size, make sure your clothes fit you well. That they're not too loose or too tight. Basically you don't want to appear uncomfortable in your clothes because the translation is you appear uncomfortable in your own skin. Be your own best friend. Love yourself.

Impeccable hygiene is mandatory. Start from the inside out. Consciously eat foods that will make you taste sweet like fruits, mints, mint leaves, etc., especially before a date. I'm not saying don't eat garlic. I love garlic. But you don't want your kisses or your pussy tasting like garlic.

Oral hygiene. Would you kiss yourself? Sometimes halitosis comes from the foods you eat and how well your body digest those foods. Or bad breath could be a sign of gingivitis. Rinse with half warm water and half peroxide a few times a week and particularly after performing oral sex. There nothing better than kissing a person with a clean mouth.

Wear nice fragrances. You want that man to notice your scent. All perfumes are not the same on every woman and you should alternate fragrances because after a while your body's chemistry will neutralize a fragrance and it won't smell the same on you.

Always clean out the trenches of your vagina with your finger. When you're in the shower or tub, clean yourself out. Also, if you're on any types of medications, pay close attention to if your meds are creating an unpleasant body odor. Remedy this by drinking at least 8 to 16 ounces of water when you take meds because some meds actually cause yeast infections that may create a body odor. Keep Monistat on hand and use it if necessary.

Mannerisms are wonderful attention getters. Strut, sashay, smile, basically be seductive. Practice being sexy until it becomes natural to you. When appropriate, gently touch a man's arm, bicep, chest. If you hug him, caress the nape of his neck. Most men don't get enough affection. You want him to think, "Damn, she smells good, looks marvelous, and feels great. I've got to see her again."

Ladies, you are in control. Remember Part 1, then add theses tips from Part 2.

IMPORTANT! Ladies give him/them a number of reasons to want you. Then you determine if you want him. Let him like you first.

TOMORROW I'll address FALLACY OF THE FAMILIAR. Why do women keep dating the same type of men and having one failed relationship after another?

New York Times Best-selling Author &
Relationship Sexpert

Special Edition


The older he gets the sexier he is.

Monday, February 15, 2010

I Wanna Love You

Not long ago I put up a post of Toni Braxton's new look. It was cute, but lately I've been noticing a lot of people's fashion. Fashion did not use to be important to me, but now that I'm in my 20's (and more people are paying attention to me) I'm starting to realize the importance of physically standing out.

The bad part about fashion is the people who are being admired most (and some are trying to copy them) are Lady Gaga, Rihanna, and Beyonce (the blond does not work for everyone). With this in mind, I tend to look to the past for inspiration. My inspiration today came from a 90's singing group called Jade.

The song I'm about to post is good, but make sure you pay attention to their fashion.

I Can Tell

The post before this was about finding love and I just heard the perfect song that goes along with the theme. It is called...
I Can Tell by Monifah

Love Advice From Mary B. Morrison

A few weeks ago I started a section on here called "Quest For Love." However, I did not write in that section last week because I was lacking in advice. Well today some good advice was handed to me through facebook.

The advice you are about to read comes from New York Time's best selling author Mary B. Morrison.

Why do some women meet lots of 'datable' men and other women can't meet one?

Attitude is the answer.

I want ALL my single ladies to meet at least 1 new man a week for the next 12 weeks. As you do this, watch how your social life improves. I'm going to give you more tips throughout the rest of the week.

The FIRST step to meeting a man you'd like to date is all about YOUR attitude ladies.

1) You must have high self-esteem.
2) You must have confidence in approaching men.
3) You must trust your instincts.

High self-esteem matters because no matter how attractive you are on the outside, if a man senses you don't feel good about yourself, he won't feel good about you either. He'll either pity you or immediately dismiss you as a potential long-term mate. He'll have sex with you but he won't take you out first. Or he'll take you out, have sex with you, but won't call you again.

Men like confident women. It's okay to approach a man but do it with confidence NOT desperation. Men can tell when women are desperate. Be confident. Although you've approached him, let him like you more. How? Be friendly. Learn the basic seductive mannerisms that turn men on instantly. I'll address this later this week.

IMPORTANT! Ladies you MUST trust your instincts. If you get a gut feeling to leave that man alone, leave him alone. I don't care how attractive he is. Listen to your instincts.

New York Times Best-selling Author &
Relationship Sexpert

If you are interested in getting advice directly from her join her facebook group "The Girls Club by HONEYB."

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Joe Torry

Joe Torry

I have a lot of love for comedians.

Romeo and Juliet

Tomorrow is Valentines Day and I won't have a Valentine, but that is okay. I've always dreamed of the Romeo and Juliet type love, but not because of Shakespeare.

I dreamed of it because I heard this song when I was little.

Romeo and Juliet by Sylk E Fyne

Sex Education Video Blog #3

I thought of my next video blog after attending my Mental Health class on Friday. I tried to be serious when making the video, but it just couldn't happen. Well, here it goes.

Sex Education
Video Blog #3

Interesting fact about me: Earlier during my college years I took a class called News writing and reporting. During the class each person had to give a description of what they wanted to do after college. My career goal was to have my own television show, but be the much younger version of Sue Johanson. Well, I'd be black too. If you do not know who she is, she has her own sex show on the Oxygen network. I guess you can say this is practice for me to reach that goal if it happens.

Friday, February 12, 2010

On My Way To Credibility

A while ago I changed my first name on facebook to FutureAuthor, but it's after several months and I'm still not an author.

Sooo, I wanted to change that little and the perfect idea popped into my head earlier today. A few months ago I had to make a chapbook for my poetry class. A chap book is an easier and cheaper way of putting together a book. Making it myself was hard, so I did end up paying my school's copy center to do it. I didn't think anything of it then, but today it became a great idea to get me to my goal. Of course as soon as the idea popped into my mind it would not leave, so I paid the copy center money to make some for me. However, I'm still not thinking of myself as an author. This is just a step to get me on my way to author credibility.

Below you will see the full chapbook, a close-up of the cover page, and the middle of it. It is approximately 24 pages long.

Cute Hair

While I'm not feeling her make-up in this picture, I must admit Toni Braxton's hair is cute. If I was brave enough I would cut my hair that short.

Want It, Need It

Valentines Day is just two days away. Now there are some women who don't love their men. They just keep them around for specifics needs. Those needs could be for money or sex. If you are that type then this next song is for you.

Want It, Need It by Plies

Thursday, February 11, 2010


Valentines Day is just three days away, but there are some of you who do not care. You've had your heart broken so many times that the thought of any holiday made for love disgusts you. If you are one of those people the next song will make you reminisce about those bad memories, but give you some eye candy at the same time.

Avant Separated

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

This Little Game We Play

There are four days left until Valentines Day. Couples are trying to figure out what to get each other and single people are regretting being single. I'm one of those single people. Well something happened a few hours ago that made my hope for a Valentine rise. It all started and ended with a text message. After receiving the text ideas started to run through my mind. I didn't know whether to feel special after reading it or just take it as a nice gesture. I'm pretty sure you're wondering what the text said. Well it's a little too personal to explain, but the text did remind me of this song.

This Little Game We Play by Subway and 702

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Business Partners

The best thing about barbies is they work together. Nicki Minaj and Mariah CArey proves that in their new video "Up Out Of My Face."

Must Be Good

There are some women out there in relationships, but they are the only ones who loves the fact that they are with their man. They family complains about their relationship. They friends complain. Strangers approach their with rumors about their man.

However they are dedicated to their relationship. If you are one of those women, this song is for you.

Must Be Good by Kandi

Monday, February 8, 2010

Love You Crazy

Valentines Day is just 6 days away and there are some women that are so crazy in love with their men, they don't care what happens on that special day, as long as they spend it with him.

If you are one of those women this is the perfect song for you.

Envogue-- Love You Crazy

Maria Irene Fornes

“When I’m not doing something that comes deeply from me, I get bored. When I get bored I get distracted and when I get distracted, I become depressed. It’s a natural resistance, and it insures your integrity.” – Maria Irene Fornes

Sunday, February 7, 2010

It Aint A Man's World--Video Blog #2

A few days ago (Thursday) after I finished my workday with TV20, one of the television station workers talked to me (and the other students) about our work ethic. He said that we are all good, but as women we need to work harder. On my work day there are only women. He reminded us that once we leave we will be walking into a male dominated world.

This made me think. Then I decided to look up the statistics of women working in journalism. Now I want to go into entertainment journalism (which is a harder field to break into), so the statistics were very important to me.

I also met a girl last Friday. Her name is Ashli Doss and she is a first year broadcast journalism student. She kept running into problems (they're unavoidable at my school), but she was determined to get her work done. In the video I'm about to see, you will be able to see her determination and the 2009 statistics of women in journalism.

Hope you enjoy...

It Aint A Man's World--2nd Video Blog

School Lessons: Enjoying Life

When I came to college I planned to have the time of my life. I wanted to have good grades, but I also wanted to try to party as much as possible. I wanted to take as many pictures as possible. I wanted to make many memories with friends (even drunk memories).

However, certain circumstances put a stop to my plans. Those circumstances involved money. I didn't have a lot of responsibilities coming into college, but the number one thing I needed to do was eat. I was a picky eater, so surviving on cafeteria food was not good enough for me. With that in mind, I chose to spend the money I had on food instead of parties. I'm sure my parents liked the fact of me spending money on food instead of clubs, but that did not make me happy. It made that part of my college experience kind of boring.

After my freshman year I thought the fun would eventually come, but more worries came instead. I had to be more responsible because I was living off campus (expensive rent), eating off campus, and shopping expenses (I am a girl). During the rest of these years I concentrated so much on spending money only on what I need that I forgot to just enjoy the fun moments that make up my college experience.

In fact there's at least one moment I can think of that should have been fun, but it was not because I was worried about money. It was one of my summers in Tallahassee. I was hanging out with a friend and I had told her to drop me off at home before she with some others to this club. However, her plan was to get me to the club. I went that night, but I was unhappy because I already did not have a lot of money in my account. Then the club cost $5 to get in. $5 wouldn't have been a lot if I had a lot of money in my account at that time, but I didn't. Of course there were some fun moments with friends that did not involve spending money, but as college progressed they decreased.

So my lesson of the week is to have fun if you are in a surrounding that allows you to. Don't let any circumstances keep you from that fun. Enjoy Goombay if that's the biggest event coming up. Hit up Champagne Sip (something I always wanted to do) if that's what you want to do.

Saturday, February 6, 2010

In The Car

Last year on Valentines Day I wrote a post about all of the men who want to be friends with benefits, want bust-it-baby's, etc. abandon women who any other time they'd be chasing after. They forget those women need love too. Well, if you are one of women who are forgotten on that special day don't take it this year. Tell you friend with benefits that you two will celebrate together.

To help you out here's a special song you can play for him.

Candi Redd: In The Car

Just Sexy Enough

I was going to pick another male from from facebook list of friends, but I was distracted by a BET movie.

This movie started off weird at first. It showed a little boy who was witnessing his mom prostitute and then witness her death. However, after her death he moved in with his grandfather and started growing up. This is when he became recognizable. He was 50 Cent.

50 Cent is not a good guy. He's not the lawyer or doctor type either. He has lots of money, but that's not what stands out about him either. He's like Jay-Z. He carries himself like a man who deserves all the respect in the world. Plus, he has sexy tattoos.

Don't Be Afraid

Yesterday I was having a conversation with two men. At some point in the conversation I started talking about my goals after college. I mentioned getting a job, making money, and then I said marriage. One of the males asked me who I planned to marry and I asked him if he was interested in marrying me. I was just joking and he (while laughing)pretended like he didn't know English anymore.

He then told me he was just playing, but he said he really was not ready for marriage. Then the subject changed a little. He had some free items he'd just gotten from the radio station on our campus. He did not want this free shirt so I took it and said I'd sleep in it. He then asked me if I was going to think about him while in the t-shirt. I told him no because he was not ready for me.

Although our conversation was full of jokes there are women out there who have that special person in mind. Plus, Valentines Day is coming up.

So, if you have a special man but you do not have a title to your relationship, get him alone in a room with you and play this song.

Don't Be by Tamika and Latocha Scott

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Girls Just Wanna Have Fun/1st Video

I've been thinking about doing a video blog for a little while now. However, I didn't have any fancy equipment to work with. I thought I needed a MAC computer, a camcorder (specifically Sony), and Final Cut Pro to edit it all on.

However, after talking to a professor I was convinced to start small. I used pictures and video I made on my Sony camera and created my very 1st video blog for

The girls in the following video met each other at the beginning of their freshman year. Some of them are still friends while others are not. While their bonds did not last it is clear that they had some good times together. Here's one of them. ENJOY!!!

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

A Valentine Affair

Last week I used the movie "Sprung" as an example to my finding a date. Now since Valentines is coming up I'm using it for my example. I started yesterday with a status change on my facebook profile. It went like this...

"Good Morning Peeps, it's the month of Love and celebration of Black history...Oh yeah, I want a Valentine this year. The application process starts now. Men apply only."

People utilize facebook for a lot of reasons, so I thought it would be a good idea. Three people did click the like button on the status. Since those people liked it I thought it would be a good idea to put up another one today. I even added a little bit to it. Here it goes...

"It's the month of Love and celebration of Black History. Plus I'm single and because I'm love my black men (got the shirt to prove it) I'm accepting applications. I'm might even treat you so apply, lol."

I did get feedback on the status, but one person decided to personally (as in use chat) write me. I don't know if he read my status or not, but he was definitely trying to flirt with me. However, I didn't like his approach.

He started off calling me bae and then wanted me to come to his house. I didn't even know him so I don't know why he'd think I'd want to come to his house. I then politely told him I did not know him and he wrote something back. What he wrote back made it sound like I'd hurt his feelings. I can't think of his exact words now, but just imagine what a man on the street would say right after you reject him.

After that our conversation was pretty much over, but it did make me realize one thing. While I'm soliciting a date, I can't settle for anyone. He's has to be perfect or something close to it.

Old School Heaven + MoNique

equals an even better night.

Earlier tonight the BET honors came on. Many singers utilized their talent to the best of their abilities as they sang classic songs. The whole show was great, especially when Whitney Houston was honored. It was so good that as the show went off I still had songs by Whitney Houston and the voice of Trey Songz floating in my head.

Then the Monique Show came on and it got better. The guests on her show was SWV. SWV has not sang together since the 90's, but tonight they talked about how they were reuniting. Then they performed.

The first song they performed was "If Only You Knew." This song was originally done by Patti Labelle and then redone by Keke Wyatt. Tonight was my first time hearing SWV sing it, but it was still beautiful.

Then at the end of the show they sang their hit song "Weak." That song is still stuck in my head at this moment so I must share it with you now.

Weak by SWV

Monday, February 1, 2010

Not Very Sexy (Grammy's Style)

Like millions of Americans, I was tuned in to the Grammys last night. As I watched I started calculating a list of the worse dressed. My plan was to keep it short and pick three people. It was going to be Lady Gaga, Rihanna, and Ciara. Rihanna was going to make the list because of her hair, but then I saw Yahoo's list of the worse dressed. I don't know how I missed a lot of those outfits, but I had to make a new list so here it goes...

I haven't heard any bad press about Britney Spears lately, but this outfit tells me that she is asking for more.

I'm like the rest of the world. I love Beyonce, but I was not loving that dress.

I think Lady Gaga has a goal of staying on the worse dressed list for every awards show she attends.