Monday, September 12, 2016

As Quickly As We Say Her Name, Some Man Expresses His Misogynistic Ways

Say her name; Tiarah Poyau. She was a 22 year old St. John's University student just out for a night of fun at the J'Ouvert festival. Her life ended because she didn't want 20 year old Regenald Moise dancing on her. For almost a week social media has been saying her name and discussing the fragile-ness of the male ego. However, some people missed it. Some black men missed that their fucked up egos were discussed and they are happily showing their ignorance still.

I always try not to be connected with misogynistic men, but sometimes it happens. I really think some of them don't realize they are being misogynists until they are called out. Once they're called out they claim it was just a joke and they don't mean it. This man didn't even act as if the meme was a joke. He just acted confused when I mentioned Tiarah Poyau, who died in the same city he lives in.

This is what his meme said:
"I hate when women get drunk and then don't want to have sex."

Only women commented on his post. Most of them thought it was funny. One woman, other than me, was offended. It been a good hour since I saw his post and AI also removed him from my friends list. He was some random man whose request I accepted but never spoke to me. He didn't really matter, but his attitude toward women matters. Men like him matter because either we women get mad, we laugh it off, or we stay silent. Laughing it off just encourages them to keep being misogynistic and staying silent also encourages them. Getting mad just encourages them to focus on the women who will laugh it off or stay silent.

That sounds like we women are screwed, doesn't it? I don't know what to do anymore. All I can do at this point is pray that I never get put in any bad situations. I have to hope that I never get raped because some man was mad I said no. I have to hope I don't get put in a situation where a man has a weapon. I have to hope that I'm never in a situation where I have to silence myself because a man is mad I said the word no and he keeps pushing the issue. Wait, I have been in that last situation too many times to count, but you get the point.

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