Monday, August 9, 2010

Friends (Every Girl's Dream)

When it comes to friendship, stars change up their cliques as often as people are supposed to take baths. They're in the spotlight so much they lose sight of who's fake and who's going to be there for them for the rest of their life. They tend to throw away real friends for 15 minutes of recognition.

However, they are not the only ones. Having friends is becoming one of the biggest issues in society. Many people tend to push their friends out of their lives by believing craziness. They tend to believe untrue rumors. They tend to believe the silliest lies about their friends. They will even go as far as believing that their friends are trying to steal their men. The worse part about it is when it comes time to defending those they supposedly care about people will abandon those they call friends. I once had someone tell me that I get caught up in drama too much, but that person never tried to defend me when the drama went down.

Can I really be mad at them though? Truthfully it's hard to have a real friend when there are songs saying to love haters and push those that care away. It's hard to trust when the motto for my generation is "Evey man/woman does for him/herself." It's hard to have an open heart when there are so many that will call you their friend one moment and crush your heart the next. However, it's also hard to operate without friends.

When we are little we have a million friends. I know I did. However, as we grow older the amount of friends we have tends to get smaller. While at one point I thought I had a million friends, I can truly admit that the amount of friends I have now can be counted on one hand. I truly admire them too. They did what others couldn't. They opened their hearts. They were honest which in turn allowed me to be honest. They cared when others didn't. They listened to my endless drama. They went a step further and used the term "sister." I always thought I had to join a sorority to be called that, but I was wrong. They believed in me when I didn't really believe in myself.

Last weekend one of my friends told me I was strong. It's weird because sometimes I still question my strength, but that's what friends do. They see things in you even when you don't quite see it yourself. Friends are the most important part of our lives. If you feel you are slacking in that area change your ways and become a real friend. If you feel you have no one that fits the description of a friend, go and find one.

P.S.  A former friend (one that was in the millions club) passed away last weekend. He was only 23 years old. Many lives such as his are leaving their earth before their time, so make sure to spread more love than hate. Love is needed at all times.

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