Wednesday, April 22, 2015

How Does A Black Woman Jump Into Dating Non-Black Men?

The following was influenced by Naturally Moi and MadameNoire. If you want to read the articles that tell us to date men of other races in order to increase our net worth, just click on the links.

Once upon a time I went on a date with a white guy. It was five years ago right before graduating from college. He showed up with flip flops on and took me to Subway. Yes, we left my place but he showed up to a date with flip flops on. Why could I see his feet on the date? I couldn't get that part off of my mind but there's more. 

Upon ordering my sandwich he revealed that he was a vegan and gave me a lesson on how eating meat is bad for you. This might sound terrible, but he really lost my attention at the flip flops. I was trying to be a good sport by following through but the lesson on eating meat was a bit too much. Even more, I paid for my own sandwich. We were in college so maybe paying for our own food was okay, but the rest was not. 

I struggle with dating men that are not Black. I struggle with listening to music that does not have Black people as the artists or isn't Hip Hop or rap music. My educational background involved me being surrounded by nothing but people that looked like me for so long that I now naturally gravitate to hanging out with people that look like me. However, these new articles are saying, "Open your eyes to something new." 

Remember that movie that Sanaa Lathan did almost a decade ago? It was called Something New and the whole focus was that she found love with a man that wasn't Black. These articles aren't exactly telling us to find love the way she did. They are telling us to date men that are not Black to increase our net worth. It's all about environmental growth, hitting the jackpot, getting more money in that bank account. 

There is one problem with this. I don't know how to meet men that don't have my skin color. They don't approach me and I tend to only give men that approach me a chance. The only reason I met the flip flop wearing white guy was because he was attending an HBCU. 

Do you have any tips on how a girl like me could broaden her dating horizons? Where do I meet the perfect White dude, or cute Hispanic? Where is the Chinese man with a big bank account and a love for Black women hanging out at? 

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