Sunday, May 15, 2011

Sunday Reflections: You Should Only Fall In Love With One Person At A Time

Yesterday I wrote a post asking when is the best time to give up on a goal. Well, several people responded to me by saying never. I honestly expected at least one person to say an actual age, but interesting response. If you have a goal that you've been working towards your whole life don't give up.

Recently my friend over at wrote a post about how you can be in love with love two people at the same time. You can read it here.

"Loving, and Being in love is different. Thats what the difference is. One is what you do. the other is who you are."

The quote above is something I agreed with when reading his post. I also agree that you can be in love with two people at the same time. However, I think you should choose one person at a time to fall in love with.

"Love hurts, which if done right it will."

I'm referencing quotes from his blog to make my point. According to Tavares love hurts and if done right it will. Honestly, love doesn't hurt. It's when you give your love to the wrong person, or more than one person, that it starts to hurt. As human beings we're not cut out to please everyone. We are also not cut out to love everyone or be loved by everyone. Therefore we can't handle and shouldn't handle being in love with more than one person.

Society says women are emotional creatures. Men always complain about these strong emotions, because they can't handle one woman. They can fall in love with that woman's craziness, or beauty as we like to call it. However, it's impossible for a man to say he's in love with more than one woman and hold a straight face. Every woman is different. The curves that woman one has are not the same as another woman. The street smarts that one woman possesses are not the same as another woman. The way one woman likes to be pleased is not the same as the next woman. If a man tries to juggle two different women he usually ends up confused and angry as hell. It's not love.

According to society men are simple people, but we all know that is not true. Men can be as emotional, if not more than, women and each man's emotions are different. Men make crazy demands. Some men prefer women who will have sex with them at certain times. If a woman can't live up to it then the men have issues. Some men take spontaneity way too far. Just think about it.  By nature women are supportive, but we choose who we want to support. Just because we try to live up to the crazy demands, doesn't mean we are in love. For some of us it means we love a challenge. If we happen to fall in love it's because that one man has captured our heart with his every essence. Once our hearts are captured we lose sight of any tiny flaws or distractions.

"You can love multiple people, because until you find that ONE person, your definition will change."

You can love multiple people. You can love a person's sex game. You can love another's person's bank account. You can love another person's sense of humor. However, your definition of being in love always remains the same. If you do happen to fall in love with two people at the same time you are either exceptionally gifted or extraordinarily crazy. 

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