#BeingMaryJane: Mary Jane Paul Isn't A Whore, She's A Black Woman

The pilot of  Being Mary Jane first graced our screens last July, and Tuesday night we saw the first episode of season one appropriately titled, "Storm Advisory," and of course the people who have never been through a damn thing,  life is picture perfect, or apparently live under a rock have an issue with it. I really don't understand why.

In today's society, where black women are more independent than ever, marriages are far and few in between, men or either gay, DL, or just trifflin' as hell, you would think that a show that displayed a young woman's reality would be accepted.

So many people had an issue with M.J and Andre and I can understand that because he is a married man. But let's not forget that she didn't even know he was married, in the beginning. And she also willingly told his wife about the love affair they had going on. Even though MJ knew he was married, she still slept with him in the first episode which was dumb as hell and so ethically wrong. But did you forget that actually happens?

Women meet men who lie all the time and catch feelings and even though she finds out the guy is married or in a relationship, she continues to date him. Is it wrong? Absolutely. Does it happen? Hell yeah!

People also had an issue with her because she was in essence having sex with two men at the same time. Last time I checked, that's also very possible. When you're single, you date multiple people and while dating you might like two guys and fuck 1 Saturday and the other the following Thursday. Does that sound like a hoe tendency? Absolutely. But that doesn't necessarily make a woman a whore, in my opinion.

M.J. is educated, successful, dependable, and friendly. Like everyone else she wants to be loved. Unfortunately, she fell in love with the wrong man, a married man and after finding out, she just can't seem to shake him. But that may be because he damn near wants her and pops up at her home.

And her other love interest, David, clearly has other chicks waiting on the sideline. She cancels because of her demanding job as a news anchor, and the next thing you know he's meeting another woman for dinner. And they may have sex (it's always an option). I don't know about you but I know plenty of women who were feeling a dude, she couldn't go on a date or meet his request and the next thing you know he’s in the sheets with the backup plan.

Many people frown upon the hit drama because they feel that it puts shine on the side chick and promotes cheating or whatsoever. My argument is not about if it’s wrong or right, I’m just simply saying it happens. No, I’m not here to protest for the side chick and nor do I condone this actual behavior. But let’s be real, life happens and sometimes this is the bullshit that comes with it. Yes, this is a fake show but the sceneraios are very real.

I’m not here to get all up in your business, but I can almost guarantee that many of the people that have an issue with this series have either been a side chick or have at least liked another dude that was in a relationship before. So please, save your holier than thou responses for another day. There are things to appreciate about the show, the fact that  Mara Brock Ali (creator of show) made it her business to address mental illness, in the black women, another black woman playing in a major series, and it's  honesty. It may be a harsh reality but it's a reality. So, give the show a chance. 

Shit happens and married men just may get fucked in the process. @naeicanrepeatit