Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Mommy and Daddy, Is It Okay If I???

I have this friend (no name) who is the same age as me and in a similar situation as me. After years of living on her own during her college years she has now moved back with her parents. That millions of college graduates actually, but... this girl is different than most college graduates.

Usually at 18, the age where a person automatically becomes known as an adult by the system, whether people are in the household of their family members or not they don't like being told what to do. Those people don't like feeling like their being controlled. That's what the last 18 years were for.

However, this girl feels as if she needs to get her parents permission to do everything. In fact recently she told me that she asked her parents if it was okay that she let me drive (refer to goals section, lol) while she was in the car with me. It wasn't even her car I was driving. It was my own. I think she's too old to be asking her parents for permission to do anything. She thinks their over-protectiveness and her hanging on their every question is just a safety precaution.

Now every time that I've left the house my parents may have asked me where I was going and I may have told them. I never gave them a time when I would be back though and if they weren't home I never bothered to inform them that I would be out when they got back. It's a trust thing. Plus, I feel as if I'm way too old to have to check in with my parents for every little thing. They didn't know what I was going through for the last five years, so why should they worry now.

That's just my opinion. If you're reading this, how old do you think a person should be before they can stop asking their parents for permission to do everything? Does living in your parents house automatically give them control over your actions?

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