Monday, July 14, 2014

Desensitized To Sex-Only Relationships

There comes a point in a woman's life when she realizes she's become desensitized. This revelation could come one Sunday in church or it could be at 3 pm on a Tuesday somewhere in a stressful corporate America environment. I'm not exactly sure where I was, but I was with a friend talking about a guy. The realization was that I've become way too comfortable with the idea of friends with benefits.

Well, I like to call it sex-only relationships. Its comedy to call most of those friendships, because once the sex stops, the guy disappears. Friends don't disappear. However, I'm super desensitized to a guy throwing out the idea of not being ready for a relationship, but wanting sex from me. The means I'm not shocked at men only trying to hit me up after midnight, or only throwing out physical comments, or even only thinking of me when they are horny. It is not that I say yes to every man. It is not that I've said yes to most of the ones that approached me with the idea. However, if I had a recording for every man that wasn't ready to commit to a real-deal relationship, but was suggesting we get together every now and then for hot sweaty fucking I'd had a whole lot of recordings. I'm just plain used to it.

See, what happened was I was telling my friend about the latest guy and how he said he's not ready to settle down, but he's very attracted to me. She immediately got frustrated and said, "No he didn't."She found what he said very insulting. I was thrown off by why she would be upset. Even without my history of hearing it, nine out of ten divorce lawyers suggest then men didn't want to get married in the first place. They were trying to get their ex-wives to only do booty calls, but the ex-wives kept demanding more and they could only take it for so long. I made that up, but you get the point.

I'm not where I want to be career-wise, not financially stable enough to purposely get pregnant, don't want family all up in my business if that ever happened, and way too comfortable with men saying they only want sex from me. The last two don't even make sense combined.

On the other hand is it desensitization if I don't have time for a relationship, but like to have fun every now and then?

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