Friday, June 10, 2011

Intellectual Question: Should The Friendship End If?!?!?!?

After months of quietness Eddie Long recently reappeared in the spotlight. This time there were no new supposed rape victims. Instead Eddie Long appeared because of a big settlement of $15 million with the accusers. I'm guessing he was either tired of fighting, someone convinced him money was the best way out of the mess, or his conscience got the best of him. Well what really happened between Eddie Long and those grown ass men boys will remain a mystery until the end of time, so why he would give them money will probably remain an even bigger mystery. However, the focus of this is not about how much money Eddie Long gave them or whether he committed the crime. It's about friendship. If you had a friend who supposedly committed a hard to forgive crime, would you stay friends with them?

Pastor Creflo Dollar would. In a recent sermon to his church Pastor Creflo Dollar talked about his devotion to his long time friend Eddie Long. He brought out how the bible says everyone sins and expects forgiveness. He even reminded his audience that a pastor's sin is not any bigger than a regular citizens sin.

“When you have a wreck you expect for God to forgive you and everyone else. Don’t let the preacher have a wreck, now. Then you become self righteous and you become judgmental and you’re gonna leave the preacher for his wreck when you done had more wrecks. That preacher’s still anointed to do what he was called to do. He just had a wreck. The blood will take care of his issue just like it will take care of yours.”-- Creflo Dollar, quote via Madame Noire

However, not everyone feels the way Dollar does. A lot of people are outraged at his comments. There was one blog I read where they described Dollar as being as bad as Long. They then went on and said that it would have been much better if Long would have been stealing money or something else. However, to them rape cannot be forgiven; not even by God.

I must admit I'm a super nice person. With time, healing, and prayer I can forgive anyone. When I finally do make close friends, it's hard to let them go. Hence why Suzie on Basketball Wives was desperate to become friends with Evelyn again. We must remember that Suzie did lie, which was a sin, and we forgive liars all the time. We even lie in certain situations, but we ask God for forgiveness.

People who steal, sell drugs, and kill also ask for forgiveness from God. Even more than God, they manage to have friends who stick by them. Do their friends judge their choices? HELL yeah. However, the bond of friendship is so strong that their friends manage to overcome the craziness. While everyone is judging their friend chooses to offer comfort.

Wouldn't you want the feeling that someone was supporting you if you were accused of some very ugly crime?  Or would you want your friends to abandon you? Would you abandon your friends?

Call me crazy, but I'm a real friend and I'd do the same thing as Creflo Dollar. 

1 comment :

  1. A real friend would stick around to offer that support.
    A fake friend will ditch you as soon as the headlines get rough. But when thats the case you didnt really need them anyways.The real friends are much harder to come by, but def the ones worth keeping around.